Happy marriages - is there such a thing?

I used to think if someone was married it meant they were happy and 'successful' and if someone was not (be it single or divorced) it meant they were not as 'successful'. To me, it was a status thing too.

I've now learnt that it's all a farce or facade most of the time. Those people who you think have a great relationship or marriage may be lying to themselves a lot of the time. Plus they only portray the good side of everything so you never really know what's going on behind the scenes.

I would like to get married again some day but if I don't I think I would still be happy if I found the right man/person.

That previous blog I mentioned had this to say

Fifth of all, consider that 1/2 of all marriages end in divorce. Of the 1/2 that survive, how many of them do you think that the people in them report as being “happy”? Do you think it’s 90%? Do you think it’s 75%? Nope: only 30% of married partners claim that they’re “happy” inside the marriage! That means that 15% of all marriages are happy. Those aren’t very good odds!

FACT: If you’re miserable when single, you’ll be miserable when married. As long as you keep believing that you need another person to “complete” you, you will be chasing a mirage of happiness, and end up disappointed every time.

I’m not trying to paint a bleak picture here of marriage for you, but I’m trying to help you change your focus. Marriage isn’t the goal - having a good, solid, happy relationship; where all people involved (even your kids) should be the goal.