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Just thought of some more stuff.

Gaslighting

You MAY have depression and/or a mental illness but more than likely you don't. However, your man will make you THINK you do. He'll also make you go crazy with other thoughts. This is called 'gaslighting'.

Family relationships

I should have mentioned before that an abused man is more than likely to have been abused by one or both parents while growing up. Now abuse doesn't necessarily mean being hit, it can be emotional or psychological. Ask him about his childhood. If there are glaring holes in his story or he claims to not remember he is either covering up something or lying. I still don't know anything much about my ex's childhood no matter how many times I tried to ask. He actually got angry that I even asked and now I know why.

No matter how glowingly he talks about his family or siblings he probably had a rough childhood one way or another. And YOU did too. You can both deny this till you're blue in the face but the fact is people end up in emotionally abusive situations because it's all that they know.

Pathological lying

Sooner or later he'll start lying about important things to do with his past and his actions. Then he'll call YOU are liar. This is called 'projection'. He feels guilty for his wrongdoing and projects it onto you.

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